"The LORD does not look at the things man looks at. Man looks at the outward appearance, but the LORD looks at the heart. 1 Samuel 16:7b"
We get 24 hours a day. What are you doing with yours? Sure, we sleep and have to stand in lines (forever.) But for most of your waking hours, what are you doing with the time God gives you?
Every activity and even our inactivity points primarily to building the heart or promoting the self. Selfish or selfless. Examining our life (for me, an end of the day recollection and reflection on the day helps) helps us be good stewards of time, a commodity we claim to have too little off and a commodity that God doles out in "just enough" quantity.
Are our questions more often than not , "How will this look?" or "What will they think?" or "Will I be liked?" Or are they more "What would God want?" or "How can I serve others in a godly way?" or "Will this matter 10 years from now?"
Appearances play to the world as audience. The heart plays to God.
Examine your valuable currency, time. Is it spent wisely? Is it spent on appearances or on building the heart, on loving. Love outlasts time. It will not wear out. Building hearts is eternity work.
"The unexamined life is not worth living." Socrates